So I don't get hate mail and I don't think I've ever had a comment that has offended me. I've had people disagree with me, but no one has been mean or offensive. Clearly I haven't "made it" in blog land (and I'm ok with that). But here's how I know that people have a lot of blogger hate- I have the word "dooce" in my blog name.* And do you know who gets a lot of hate? Dooce.
Every week, I get hits on my blog because people are searching for Dooce. Some of them are just search terms- like dooce wedding, dooce photos, dooce larabar or more recently dooce running. But others reveal just how much people like to "hate" on the internet. Here is a list of some of the nicer ones- dooce is shameless, dooce's stupid marathon, stupid dooce, and i hate dooce.
I genuinely couldn't imagine googling something like that. Seeing those search terms makes me thankful that I've never had to deal with the hate. Would I be willing to deal with it for the kind of money she makes on her blog? Hmm- maybe....but I'm not so sure my skin is that thick. Could it thicken with time? Perhaps. But I'm perfectly happy with what I have.
Obviously I know that there is a LOT of crazy hate on the internet. You only have to look at the comments section of news sites to know just how MUCH internet craziness there is out there. I often wonder what those people did before the internet. Did they send strongly worded letters to the editor? Did they keep all that negativity inside? How did they get all that rage out before they could hide behind anonymous comments on the internet?
Don't get me wrong- I am all for constructive criticism and I love comments that challenge peoples thoughts and perceptions. A good debate is awesome. But I don't like blatantly mean comments- and I think we all know the difference between disagreeing with an opinion, constructive criticism, and being mean.
If you've ever had to deal with it- what is your technique with dealing with internet hate? (I have to admit- I kind of miss the Dooce posts dedicated to hate mail) Have you ever left a comment that you worried would be taken the wrong way when really you were trying to be constructive?
*And hey, just in case you were wondering about the name of the blog, check out my first post ever (here). You see, back then, blog was practically a four letter word. Not everyone knew what a blog was and if they did, they thought you were a bit of a weirdo for blogging (not that I'm not a weirdo). There were a few "big" bloggers and one of them was Dooce. I thought she was pretty funny and thought to myself "hey, maybe I can blog too." And so, Inspired by Dooce was born. And now that she's running- can I pretend that she was inspired by me?